We all experience stress. Sometimes it is only mild stress that lingers for a few minutes before it dissipates naturally. But other times, we experience stress that is so significant that it becomes a detriment to functionally properly in our daily lives. And the worst part of situations like that is that once it happens, we often don’t know where the stress came from! So before we figure out how to handle stress, we should know where stress comes from. Keep reading to learn more about why you get stressed out.
Stress comes in many shapes and forms!
Because stress is a part of life, it makes sense that stress can come from so many different aspects of your life. Unfortunately that means that at any moment, you can become triggered by stress that simply wasn’t there a few days ago, or even a few minutes ago. Here are some general examples of stress:
Stress in the workplace
While we all like to think that we have dream jobs and love every minute of them, the reality of it is that often our jobs are just a necessity to earn a living. This can often lead to stress in many different forms. Working long hours or having too heavy of a workload are obvious examples of aspects of your job that can stress you out. But there are other aspects you may not have thought about before.
For example, having no direction in either your specific role, or just seeing that the company has no clear direction can be disheartening and cause subtle stress over time. So can the fear of getting fired (or never getting that promotion you’ve always wanted) that slowly creeps in over time. Even the simplest of things like having to give public speeches in work, or simply being unhappy about what you do on a daily basis can cause stress.
Of course, there are more serious stress factors as well. You could be working in dangerous conditions, living in fear that at any moment you could lose your life and leave your family to fend for themselves. Or you could be facing severe discrimination or harassment at work as well. Especially when the company does nothing to resolve the issues that you may have and support you, can very easily become stressed.
Stress In Your Personal Life
The complementary side to your work life is your personal life, and just as often as you can become stressed at work, can you become stressed due to something that happens away from work. There are common stress factors like the losing your job, or dealing with a nasty breakup. Heck, even getting married can cause stress for some people, as can uprooting your lives and moving to a new city.
Financial burden can also trigger stress, especially if it comes up all at once. A good example is when you suddenly are having to pay for medical expenses or a lawsuit when you aren’t prepared to be spending that kind of money. Or when you already have bills that have been manageable up until this point but you lose your job all of a sudden. When you suddenly have to worry about finances, for whatever reason, that naturally causes stress.
More significant examples include traumatic experiences that you have either recently faced or are having flashbacks to. Things such as natural disaster or criminal acts upon yourself or your family. Anything traumatizing like that can bring out the stress in you. So can something as natural as the death of a loved one. Despite it being a part of life, your brain will not be able to stop the flood of emotions related to the person you just lost. This can cause stress if it becomes a constant thought on your mind, even if there was nothing you could have done to stop their death from happening.
Stress due to emotional problems
For those that frequently deal with stress, they may unfortunately be dealing with an underlying emotional problem. Anxiety is a common problem which causes you to overthink and overly worry about things, especially things that you cannot necessarily control. When that happens, you stress out when your problems can’t be solved on your own. People with low self-esteem are often frequently stressed, simply because they typically already have inadequate social support systems. Those with low self-esteem often do not have the social skills to create a group of friends that they can rely in during hard times. So when rough patches occur in their life, their inability to deal with it through their friends creates stress for themselves.
People who suffer from depression almost always deal with greater levels of stress than most people. This is due to an unfortunate side effect of depression which is the increased levels of stress hormones. In those cases, the amount of stress you have cannot be controlled.
However, what can be controlled is how you mitigate and lessen the stress once it comes into your lives. And this applies to all forms of stress. Even if emotional problems can’t stop you from being stressed, they also can’t stop you from mitigating the stress and finding ways to treat it on your own.
People get stressed from different things
Although these are some of the many common reasons for being stressed, it’s important to note that what triggers your stress personally may be different than what triggers someone else’s stress. Keep this in mind when you are interacting with other people who may seem stressed. If you think you know them and why they are stressed, or feel that they should not getting stressed because you have seen yourself in similar situations without any stress, think again. Stress is a complex issue and needs to be treated care.
Getting Stressed out Is a Part of Life
After reading this guide, you are probably thinking to yourself just how pervasive stress can be in our lives. It can happen due to so many different things that you may feel like you can’t get away from stress, at least not permanently. And that is honestly the truth of the matter. Stress is a part of normal life. It will happen from time to time and unfortunately is a burden on your life more often than not. But even if stress weighs you down in life, you always have the power to lift that weight off your shoulders by dealing with stress head on. Now that you know where stress comes from, you can begin to focus on how to deal with it and mitigate it moving forward.